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My Fears Change.


 My biggest fear for my kids changes often. 

Something new will happen or I’ll hear something and it changes what my fear is for that day or week or even moment. 


Today my biggest fear was Dallas ever losing his light or spark. 


I think of Harper and not that I don’t worry about her because I do. But she’s so fierce, spunky, loud, charismatic, engaging, and bold. She demands love from people around her. 


Dallas is more reserved, keeps to himself, sensitive,and soft hearted. 

 

I worry about someone hurting his feelings, picking on him, or putting out his light more. 


He’s not as outgoing as his sister but he is funny, loving, cuddly, sweet, caring, and has the desire to engage but his body can keep him from it at times. 


I struggle with wanting them to have the awareness of what’s going on around them but also I never want him to feel like he isn’t perfect exactly how he is! 


These are the thoughts that bring me to tears. 

I try so hard to protect their sparkle and light.


I tell myself if I feed so much love into them that if the time ever was to come and someone was mean, that they are so full of love, what someone else has to say won’t move them a bit. 


Our kids with disabilities are to perfect for this world❤️


This post was written by Shelby Shivener from Autism On The Farm


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